How To Have a Good Day: Sand In My Shower Means I Had a Great Day
I am a pretty happy person. If you ask anyone that I work with, friends, or family, they will tell you that I am pretty laid back. Why would I not be? Over the years, I have been very lucky. I have a great family, a solid job with great people, and the ability to help others through Hawaiian Island Clothing. I credit this to living the Aloha lifestyle.
Just like you, I have had my ups and downs. I am 38 years young and know the best waves of my life are still ahead of me, my outlook on life is just different from so many others I meet.
Maybe I found something that works. Maybe I found the secret recipe for life. I believe that I have found Aloha. Whatever it is, I want to share what works for me with you. You will see that my life is not exciting or full of adventure. In fact, my life is pretty boring if you really look at it. However, I think this is what makes it work.
As I write this, my hope is that you join me in this adventure and mindset. I hope that it will help you find your Aloha.
The Morning: Finding Aloha Starts Early
“If you make your bed every morning, you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride, and it will encourage you to do another task, and another, and another. And by the end of the day that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed.” – Retired U.S. Navy Admiral Seal William H. McCraven
I am a huge believer in a solid morning routine. The morning is a time that is special to me. This time is my time and helps me get into the groove for the rest of the day. Honestly, if my morning routine is off, sometimes I can never get back on the track.
Typically, I will wake up before the house is awake. If you know my house, it is typically awake and I mean awake. My wife and I have 4 children and my parents live with us. It is an understatement to say that the house comes alive around 8 am.
So, before 8 am is my time. This is the time that I set up the day for Aloha.
Get outside and exercise
As I write this post, it is 9:30 am and it is 95 degrees outside. I love me some desert heat (that is right, we are not located in Hawaii, but Arizona. Sorry if this burst your bubble). That being said, running is something that I have forced myself to like and it is the first thing I do in the morning.
I am not going to go into the benefits of exercise, that is for another article and honestly, I am not a doctor or even a fitness expert. I can rehash something like, exercise helps you release endorphins or something like that, but I really do not know that for a fact.
What I do know is that when I get up and run, my body seems to work better, especially as I gracefully age. When I get up early and exercise my mind is more alert and my body seems to function better. I can focus throughout the day and seem to have more energy.
This is step one of the daily routine on how to have a good day.
Sidenote: For my job, I do travel all over the country. Living on the West Coast and traveling to the East Coast, makes it hard to get up and do a run. Who really wants to get up at 3 am home time. However, it is important to get that run in the morning to start the day off right.
Wake up to something you like – Find your Aloha in the morning
I think this is the magic of the morning. Like so many of you, I like coffee. I mean I really like it. After my morning run, I drink some water to replenish.hydrate and then get a nice cup or three of coffee (I know, I have a problem). It is something that I splurge on most of the time. No Folgers for me. My cup of coffee is something that I look forward to in the morning, it is very important.
When you wake up, you need something to look forward to. It is like a little trigger that sets you off on the right path. The point here is not to get you to drink better coffee. The point is to ensure that you have something that you enjoy in the morning. You need to find your Aloha and set your day off in the right direction.
Work on your biggest goals
I enjoy being productive and getting things done. But you never know where your day is going to end up. You might get that phone call from a customer that changes the trajectory of the day. You might get a flat tire on the way into work. Life happens and many times there is nothing we can do about it.
I have found that if I focus on one goal, one giant goal in the morning, it makes me feel better all day. Honestly, I am not sure that I know why this is, but my thought is that it is similar to making your bed in the morning. You get that one piece of productivity out of the way, setting you up for success. When all is said and done and the day is over. You can look back and say, “I accomplished something that was important.” If nothing else gets done, you at least did something to move things forward.
As you can see the morning is really how to have a good day because it starts your day on the right path. I am a big fan of the morning routine. I know that the mornings are sometimes the hardest, so make them count.
Finding your Aloha starts early.
The Day: Keep the Momentum Going
You just had the most epic morning. Your run was killer, your coffee was off the chain, and you accomplished your big goal. You are killing it son. But it is only 9:00 am. There is still a whole day in front of you.
Well, we are trying to have a good day, not just a good morning. So, let’s keep the good vibes moving. Here are a few things that I do to keep the good vibes moving forward.
Be careful what you eat
I am going to be the first to admit that this one is hard. When at work, it is super easy to run out and get that delicious burger and fries or that overstuffed carne asada burrito. Yeah, I like carbs just like you.
These meals are great from time to time. I am not a believer in diets, I think that diets are counterproductive to your overall health and set you up for failure.
Raise your hand if you have ever been on a diet and then Friday, pizza day, comes and your diet is now shot for the weekend. Yeah, I have my hand raised too, no shame. I just try to generally eat healthy. Make sure to eat some veggies, lean protein, and fruits. I would also suggest cutting out as many processed foods as possible.
Make sure that you slowly change your diet and slowly move to eat healthy. My experience is that a drastic change in your diet is a great way to ruin your day. This is a lifestyle change, not a quick fix.
Finally, reward yourself every now and again with a great lunch or epic dinner with your loved ones. Splurge on something nice and make it an epic time.
Find your mid-afternoon aloha
Like many of you, I have transitioned to work in the home environment due to the 2020 global pandemic. I am really enjoying this because I can take a break at 2:00ish and go find my Aloha. Right now, this is heading to the swimming pool with the kids and hanging out for a bit.
This has become my mid-afternoon Aloha. When I was going into the office, it was taking a walk around our building and calling my wife while she waits to pick the kids up from school.
This time is important. I am not a smoker, but I think the smoke break is important because it gives you time to recharge your battery. It is the time that you are able to connect with others, find out what is really going on, and recharge to finish your day strong.
P.S. do not smoke. It is a disgusting habit.
Make time for your loved ones
I have mentioned that I have kids (4 to be exact) and a great wife. These individuals are the reason that I work hard, get up early in the morning, and pretty much the reason I do anything.
It is important to make time for the people in your life that matter. This is not just an every now and again thing, this is an everyday thing. Never get so busy in life to not be able to give back, help, or stay in touch with the ones that you love.
Another point here and I am guilty of this as well. When you are hanging out with your people, make sure to put the phone down. Really give them your attention, have a real conversation and connect with them. We do not get as much time with everyone, so make sure that you take advantage of the time you do have.
Your friends and family are how you have a good day. Remember, this when someone, like your kid, gets under your skin. Just let it go, maybe they need a hug.
The Evening: Prepare for Tomorrow Morning
OK, you have had a really good day. Your routine is starting to really turn everyday into something great. I love it. The evening is how you set yourself up to have a good day tomorrow.
Make sure you have me time
We all need some downtime. The kids are in bed, the house is quiet and now it is time for you to do something you want to do. It is important to take time for yourself.
Research suggests that your brain needs downtime to stay creative and fresh. failing to take this me-time can lead to more stress and exhaustion. Personally, I have noticed that when I do not take thins time I get burned out on work, family, and Hawaiian Island Clothing. In my 20’s I was able to go and go some more. Now, I need this time.
For many of us, this is the time we read, watch some TV, or actually get to chat with our spouse. Whatever you determine is right for you and your situation, make sure that you take time and have that downtime. It will help you have a good day tomorrow.
Reflect on what worked
Before bed take 5 – 10 minutes in silence to reflect on the day. More importantly, focus on the things that worked and helped you have a good day. These are the items that you should focus on the next day for days to come.
The purpose of reflecting on the day is to learn from your actions. This is the time that you are going to learn about yourself and how you go from having a poor day to having a good day.
I reflect for about 5-10 minutes before shutting my eyes for sleep. This helps me fall asleep faster, but others like to reflect first thing in the morning. It is really whatever works for you, just make sure to do it.
Go to bed at the same time every night
OK, by now you might know that in order to have a good day, you need to establish your routine. Well, going to bed is no different. Studies show that people that go to bed at the same time every night are healthier and more successful.
Personally, I believe that going to bed at the same time every night is more important than the amount of sleep you get. If I go to bed at 10:15 pm every night, I am able to get up earlier the next morning on less sleep, than if I am sporadic with bedtime.
Bedtime is a time to set the tone for tomorrow. So, if you are going to have a good day tomorrow, start by setting a consistent bedtime. Again, this helps as you gracefully age. Those days of the long study session and epic parties are behind us.
Sand In My Shower Does Not Mean
Ok, you can see that in order to have a good day, you need a routine. Not sure if I have stated that yet. Personally, I have found peace in my daily routine and it keeps me moving things forward.
There are 2 very distinct items that I have found in life that do not help you have a good day. Maybe, these are 2 things that will help you live the Aloha lifestyle.
Doing what you want, all the time
We all need some time to do what we want. A nice vacation, an epic camping trip, or splurging on a great meal. These are all good in the hood.
However, if you are like 99% of people, you are going to have responsibilities. You are not independently wealthy (if you are, please grab some shirts). You have a job, rent, and a need to provide for your family. So, you are not going to be able to do what you want, all the time.
This is why I have found my daily routine to be so important. When I am on my daily routine, I have a good day. I know what to expect and I do it. I am not looking for that next vacation or shopping trip. I am looking forward to every day.
Putting yourself over others
Call it a pet peeve of mine, but I am not a fan of selfishness and I hope you agree. I hear things like, “if it is free, it is for me” and I cringe just a little bit. Personally, I think that this is one of the biggest issues we are facing in America and the world. If we would treat others the way we want to be treated, we would all be in a better place.
Instead, let’s focus on being selfless. Instead of focusing on being concerned excessively or exclusively, for oneself or one’s own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of others, let’s help others. Let’s put others’ needs before our own.
Being selfless is part of the Aloha meaning and the blueprint for our lives.
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Reminder: every day is not going to be good
Sometimes, you need to know when to throw in the towel. There is nothing wrong with taking a day to recharge or regroup. Every day is not going to go the way you planned it or expected it to end. We all have a bad hair day (except for me, I am bald. I wish I could have a bad hair day).
Here is the important thing. If you have one of these days, where you need to throw in the towel and hit the reset button, use it. There is nothing wrong with taking a day. These days are great for self-reflection and determining what went wrong so that it does not happen again. Many times, these days are just as valuable as your really good days.
Make sure to use your bad days for good, not evil. They might actually set you up for many good days ahead.
Sand In My Shower Means I had a Great Day – How to Have a Good Day
Not all of us are lucky enough to be a professional surfer. However, this surfer quote helps remind us how to have a good day. If you set up your life and daily routine, there is no reason you can’t have a good day every day. That is the true goal in life.
Thanks for reading, I know that this article was a bit long. I hope that through these words you are able to set up your days for better days ahead. I hope that you find your Aloha.