Your Wave is Waiting – A Lesson in Patience and Perseverance
Through patience and perseverance, you will find your wave.
During the epidemic of 2020, my wife and I planned to travel to Hawaii for the first time. We wanted to celebrate our anniversary in paradise and get away for a few days. We were so excited to finally be able to travel to the Hawaiian Islands. So, we thought.
We bought our plane tickets and found our hotel on the beach. A month before we planned to leave, the Hawaiian Islands closed. I know, how does an Island shutdown? Bummer, right?
We were both a little upset about how the world turned our trip upside down. We tried to reschedule with no luck. We thought we missed our wave.
It is a week before October, nearly 7 months after our planned trip. Guess what? We are still stuck at home, dreaming of a Hawaiian vacation like so many others. During this time, we have started to wonder if our wave has come and gone. We wonder if we are ever going to be able to visit the Hawaiian Islands.
Your wave is waiting through patience and perseverance.
The surfer quote, your wave is waiting, reminds us that we will get our chance to escape to the Hawaiian Islands. Our wave, just like your wave, is waiting. Trust me, your wave is out there.
Our time will come. We will be more excited than ever to hop on the airplane and land on the Hawaiian Islands. We will travel, enjoy the beach, eat some great food, and experience the Hawaiian culture first hand. It will happen.
This surfer quote reminds us. We need to be patient, good things take time, they do not happen overnight. Good things come with patience.
Your wave is waiting also reminds us that we need to keep trying despite difficulty or delay. Giving up is not an option.
Today, I want to expand on this surfer quote. I want to explain why missing our planned vacation is not as bad as one might think. I want to show you through examples of how some waves are not the right wave.
Define what you really want in life. Live a driven-purpose life.
I look back and think about the reason I wanted to visit Hawaii. I really thought I needed a break from life. I needed to get away from my job for a while. My thought was simple, I needed a break and time to detach.
Well, this is still true. We need to get away from time to time. It is healthy to reconnect with your partner. Detaching from your responsibilities is healthy and good for the soul.
However, as I look back, our trip was part of something bigger. It was the calling to start and build Hawaiian Island Clothing. My missed wave led me to another wave that is bigger and more epic. I finally found my calling (helping others) and a creative outlet.
Side story about Hawaiian Island Clothing.
I often get asked about how I can have a Hawaiian clothing line and not live in Hawaii. Well, it is simple. The goal of Hawaiian Island Clothing is to create a brand that celebrates life, lives aloha and does good for others.
Furthermore, Hawaii is a dream for many people. Our belief is that as we celebrate our dreams we should help others achieve their dreams. This is why we donate over half of the proceeds to organizations that are helping people. This is our mission, helping others. Our missed wave gave me the time, the idea, and the motivation to build something that helps others.
You should know that we are not really talking about surfing. We are talking about something much bigger. We are talking about your job, your relationships, and the decision you make in life. We are trying to live a purpose-driven life. It is going to make finding your wave that much easier.
Stop looking in the wrong places. But never stop looking.
If you have ever been in the ocean waiting for the perfect wave, you know that it can be kind of boring. Some days are made for shredding. Other days are made for hanging out on the beach with friends and family.
We also know that there are certain places that you are never going to catch a wave. A lagoon, for example, will probably never give you enough force to catch an epic wave. Just like lagoons, we often look for our next job, relationship, or outlet in life in the wrong places.
For example, when I graduated from college, I wanted to land an epic marketing job. There was one problem, epic marketing jobs were not located in Phoenix, AZ. I looked, applied, and got discouraged. I would get a nibble here and there, but nothing that was what I really wanted.
So, you guessed it. I started looking in the Bay Area and ultimately landed a sweet gig that has set me up for success. I had to move to the right location.
Many of us look for our wave in the wrong place. Maybe we look for our lifelong partner at the gym when we know we are more of a couch potato.
As you wait for your wave, make sure you are looking in the right places, but never stop looking. Your wave is waiting. You might need to look somewhere that is not as comfortable as your current location.
Movement is not the solution. Moving to the right place helps.
Like many of you, I make a lot of moves. I have started, stopped, changed direction, and every time it gets me nowhere. Just like catching that epic wave, it is not about moving all over the ocean in search of that wave you can shred. It is about moving to the right place at the right time in the ocean. This is when you will find that epic wave.
When you first learn to surf, you may look out into the ocean and see nothing. You might start to recognize the swell and start of your epic wave. This is it, it’s go time. Like many of us, including myself, when we first start surfing, we miss so many epic waves because we are not in the right location. It happens. Here is the good news. Over time, you can recognize and move to the right place as your experience grows. I bet even the great kelly Slater had to learn how to get in position.
When we look at life, movement is not the solution. Moving to the right place will help. Experience is going to be the key to knowing where to go. The more you move, the more experience you will gain, eventually landing your wave.
Personal story alert. When I was a young lad, I was super eager and wanted to dominate the world. I was fresh out of graduate school and wanted to move my way to become a CEO. As time went on, I saw what being a CEO actually means. The long hours, board meetings, and more importantly making decisions, good or bad, that change people’s lives. I continued to see layoffs and cuts at companies and did not want to be in charge of this. It does not fit with who I am.
I remember being in a meeting with fellow directors. Without any concern for their employees, everybody was able to cut 2-3 people from their team. “Better them than me.”
This is when I decided corporate leadership was not for me. This mentality of dog eat dog did not leave a good taste in my mouth.
This experience told me that I want to help people. Not be in charge of executing for a board of directors to line their pockets. I determined that I was happier building a side hustle that helps people. Hopefully, it becomes a full-time gig because that will mean we are helping more and more people in need.
The point here is that you need to gain experience in life and be open to learning where to go. Find your place in the crazy world that makes you happy. If you move to the wrong place in life, you will never catch the wave that is waiting for you.
Take the emotion out of it. Keep a cool head.
How many of us make decisions that we ultimately regret. Hand raised over here. We quit our job because we had a fight with our boss or co-worker. We give up because we are not seeing the success come as fast as we expect. We see Sally across the street get a new car and we go further in debt to keep up. Whatever the case, we make a decision based on emotion. We are human.
This can be very similar to surfing. I know that the first 5-6 times I hit the surf, I did not stand. I even remember a day in San Diego, walking off the beach and vowing to never return. I was pissed, upset, and never wanted anything to do with surfing, ever. If you don’t know me, it takes me a while to get hot under the collar, but when I do I become a complete turd. I admit it.
We all make these terrible decisions in life based on emotion. I am here to tell you that It is okay to get emotional, pissed off, or upset. Last I checked we are all human. But when we are waiting for our wave, it is not okay to make decisions based on emotion alone. We need to make decisions based on logic and keep a cool head.
Your wave is waiting. Let it come to you.
I know that most of us want to catch our wave right now. We are always looking for the right here, right now, instant gratification. I am going to keep this simple. Know your wave is waiting and let it come to you. Life throws us into a path that we cannot predict. That is why it is called life, I think. Do your best at all times and your wave will make it to you. I have no doubt.
Remember, there are only so many things we can control. We can not control the weather, the wave size, the wave location, or a whole bunch of other circumstances. Just make sure that you are prepared for when that wave and our location meet at the right time.
Slow down and enjoy your wave. You only get one chance.
I am now closer to 40 than I am to 30 I have learned that patience produces perseverance. Time really does fly when you are having fun. So, I want to let you know that you need to slow down. Remember, you only get one chance at life. Let go of the differences you have with your family. Find that job that makes you happy and gives you purpose. Love your partner like there is no tomorrow. Spoil your kids with experiences, not toys, video games, or possessions, they really want your time. Make sure to catch the only wave that really matters. Life!
Thanks for reading. I hope that some of these words can help you in some way. I hope that you can see how patience and perseverance will help you find your wave. I want what is best for you and your family. Until next time, Aloha!
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